Monday, August 22, 2005

Man's Best Friend, Forgotten.

Abby was a stray, and was no doubt born as one.
The ACO recieved a call of a dog running, and picked her up as a starving, flea-ridden, and fearful puppy. No more than six months old, she would crouch in fear and and growl when first approached. It was The Equuschick who named her Abby.
Had she been groomed, she would have been beautiful. Her appearance suggested a Husky/German Shepherd mix, and so did her intelligence.
After her first day or two, she began to calm down and be quiet. She was put up for adoption. The Equuschick brushed her and sprayed her for fleas. The Equuschick took her for walks, and got her used to the leash.
Time went on. Abby learned to heel and to sit, and Abby learned quickly and Abby loved to be close to people. All her insecurity gone with humans, she still retained some fear aggresion towards other dogs. At one point, a rescue became interested in her, but did not take her in their first transport because she would have had to be crated with another dogs. And then the rescue went home and "researched the breed" and called the shelter director to exlain that "huskies had high prey drives, and that you couldn't train it out of them" so the rescue could not take this 6 mos. old puppy because they "would have to worry about her preying on small children." The Equuschick was disgusted. For pity's sake, let us kill all Huskies then, if at 6 mos. old they will not respond to training and will prey on small children.
More time went on. No one came to look at Abby, and the shelter was full. And that was the end of Abby's story, and no one remembers her but The Equuschick, who has a picture of Abby in her bedroom and has now made herself cry.
The Equuschick understands euthanasia. Dogs do not fear it, they do not understand it enough to, to them it is only a lovely scratching of the ears and then nothing and only the humans are left missing them. But dogs understand life. They love it, they are intelligent enough to want to do something with it. They are not happy to be random and alone, any more than people are. To The Equuschick, this is the most horrible thing of all. A random stray, who randomly roamed alone, and who lived her last few weeks in a concrete kennel wanting to get out.
There are some, among them The Equuschick's county board, who would say that the time The Equuschick spent teaching Abby to sit and to heel was wasted, because she never went to a home. But it wasn't, because to Abby, it was what kept her sane. For the few hours that The Equuschick could give her, Abby had a Companion and a Job, and it fulfilled her basic drives to be useful and sociable. Do not tell The Equuschick that this means nothing to an animal. It does. God did not give animals the potential to be domesticated so that they could run starving on the streets, without a productive occupation and without a master. To be without these is to be random, and The Equuschick does not understand the random. She despises it. Abby was random. She was always homeless, she never had a family, a "pack." You may say what you like, but The Equuschick knows that dogs like families. They don't know the word, they don't know what it means, but they like to have them. Abby never had one. Abby never learned tricks. You may say what you like, but The Equuschick knows dogs love to learn tricks. That's what they're FOR. To do these things with people. That's what they want to do, and Abby never got to do them. Her life was a wasted six months of space and oxygen on planet earth.
There is nothing worse than the death of a good dog, than a good dog who died after never having really learned what it is like to live as Man's Best Friend.


The Equuschick realizes she is nuts, and that most people don't get worked up over this. But she does. She can't help it. She apologizes to those who don't have any idea what she's talking about.

7 comments:

grannytiger said...

Dear one, nothing God creates is ever wasted, despite the things we humans do. Abby's life wasn't wasted -- she touched your heart, there was someone to grieve her absence from the earth, and there is someone who will remember her.

I often wish I could approach life like dogs ... who greet every morning with pure delight, as if to say "Oh, wow! It's a brand new day, isn't this GREAT?". You are so right about them; few people understand their need to belong, their need to be useful.

Headmistress, zookeeper said...

Sweetheart, you're breaking my heart and making me cry, but please, wait for the battle to come to you first. "You can say what you like" is a superfluous phrase, since nobody here is arguing with you.
You made Abby very happy, and Sadie and she would have made each other very miserable.

Misty said...

Great, now I'm dripping tears and it's just the start of the day!

Your points are made more poignant to me by the fact that we're adopting a retired racing greyhound on Thursday. We're looking forward to many long years of having Sugar as part of our family. But there is a tinge of sadness overshadowing it, because not all retired greys will be lucky enough to get an adopted home :(

jquinby said...

Funny you should mention greyhounds...we adopted one right after we got married, as soon as is usually possible - right after she turned 2. I tracked her breeder over in Alabama, just to let him know that I had her. He remembered her, laughing that she just didn't seem to take to the training, so she never actually raced. He was genuinely glad that she ended up in a home, and sent me some papers, pictures and clippings of her sire and dam.

We lost her after 12 years, in Feb. of this year. Putting her down was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

Good luck with your greyhound - they're marvelous pets, and all around Good Dogs. If you want some sighthound stories, drop me a line. One tip off the bat: invest in a decent crate if you don't already have one. Bee suffered from severe separation anxiety for some time after we brought her home, and only calmed down after she got her own little hidey-hole to stay in. My understanding is that this not uncommon.

jdavidb said...

I often wish I could approach life like dogs ... who greet every morning with pure delight, as if to say "Oh, wow! It's a brand new day, isn't this GREAT?"

Heh; that's what my little boy does every morning! You wouldn't believe the grin on his face each morning when his first little cries bring me or his mommy. As Calvin once said about Hobbes, "It's hard to feel anything bad about somebody who misses you while you're asleep." :)

Dymphna said...

There are some losses which are simply unbearable, Equuschick. You have met one of them. So don't try to "bear" it, just let your sorrow carry you. And let others' love carry your sorrow.

When I wrote my post about the death of my daughter, it accomplished some things I hadn't realized until they were done:

1. Writing about deep sorrow allows that grief to be processed somewhere deep inside. It transforms it and the experience becomes a tad more bearable. It somehow *looks* different.

2. Having others witness and feel your sorrow and anger at the randomness of loss brings us out of the isolation of grief and back into the community of witnesses.

3. Having told others, people who didn't know Abby do now, and they will remember her because you put together your moving story about her. I cried as I read your sad tale...and I don't even care much for dogs (that's another separate story). But believe me, I *cared* about Abby because of you...so, you see, Abby's life and your loss changed at least one person. I will look at dogs a bit differently now.

4. Shrinkwrapped, a blogger who is also a psychiatrist -- and who has changed my mind about that group through his words, too -- says that living through our losses is what allows us to grow...or something like that. He says it better, but that's the gist of it.

Remember, this is not a cup that will pass. It is a cup you will drink deeply from and be nourished by. Had you not known Abby you would be less than you are. So thank her for doing that for you.

In the end, the only thing that saves us is gratitude for what we have learned. Abby is one of your lessons.

tootlepip said...

Equuschick - you are not nuts! We love you and appreciate your sensitivity!

tootles